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January 26, 2011


A man in Michigan is facing a possible five year sentence for a "crime"...

No, he didn't shoot or hit anyone. He didn't steal from, or cheat anyone...

His crime? Reading his wife's email without her knowledge or permission...

It appears there is a law against reading your partner's emails without
consent. He claims the passwords were right on the desk and he only did
it because she was cheating with someone he thought might be abusive...

Uh-huh...Correct me if I'm wrong, but most men who find out their wife
may be cheating would welcome a little "abuse" against her if you get my

A few things surrounding this. I don't think the guy should have been
arrested or charged with a crime for doing what ANY partner would do
if suspicious as to their partner's fidelity...

The fact of the matter is that most people that go "looking" already have
a good idea what is going on, but want to get valid proof or "validation"
of their suspicions...

There are partners that are nosey by nature and snoop just to snoop, and
then there are those partners that are paranoid by nature and even with
no evidence, incident, or issues, will snoop, just to snoop. I'm not
talking about those types because the issue at hand is whether or not
you think this guy or any other man or woman deserves jail time for a
"crime" that, 99.999% of us would "commit" in certain circumstances?

I don't go and read Flyboy's email and he doesn't read mine. Both of
us have each other's passwords and my work mail is always minimized because
I check it so often. He is free to read that anytime if he wants to and
never has, although loves when I turn the computer his way to show him a
particular email I have received and if it's hate mail, he sits there
glued as I *ahem* respond...

In this day and age, so many people have gotten "busted" for cheating
through the technology we use every day. Text messages, phone messages,
camera phones, etc. Why isn't against the law to bust them over this
technology versus email?

I find the whole thing ridiculous and while I believe a couple should
respect each other's privacy to a degree, I don't think I would believe
my spouse was innocent if he had me arrested for reading his email...

Make no mistake about it, IF I had any kind of "gut rumbling", I'd not only
read them, I'd answer them...

I know there are couples that share email addresses or ride "shotgun" every
time either one is on the computer, sign each email with both names, etc. No
thanks, I think those types are a bit insecure, putting on a "show", or don't
trust each other, or...themselves...

I wouldn't trade the partner I have for anything in the world, but we're
both individuals and don't need each other to validate the other or the
relationship by including each other on issues that are either nonsensical
or unimportant...

So, what do you think? Is the harsh punishment for the Michigan man a little
"too much"?