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September 29, 2010

Greetings...

A study just came out that women apologize more than men, not for any
specific incident, just in general. I thought about this and wonder if
there aren't various reasons for this, whether valid or not...

Are women more polite by nature?

Do men's actions create the need for more apologies than women?

Do women use the "I'm sorry" to "keep the peace" in their relationship?

Do men use the "I'm sorry" to "keep the peace" in their relationship?

Or...Is it what I believe to be true today, a thing to do to
as a manipulative tool to deflect real issues or accountability?

An apology should be used to acknowledge a mistake, bad behavior, or
maybe even a misconception that an apology can make right...

However, I don't think an apology is what it should be or used to be
anymore and a phrase that is thrown around too lightly for it to be
sincere...

Celebrities are the guiltiest of this offense. Tine after time they
exhibit bad behavior that most of us would never dream of doing because
of the consequences and yet, they issue a "heartfelt" apology to keep
themselves on the financial gravy train. In more cases than not, those
apologies are just words and their bad behavior continues only to be
followed with another "I'm sorry" with a side dish of "I'm going to
rehab"...

The other end of the argument are those without any manners or conscience
who would never apologize to anyone no matter what they did to owe that
apology...

Is this a sign of the times? Are children being taught manners and adults
forgetting theirs?

Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't want to hear "I'm sorry" from a person if
the behavior that created the need for the apology continued. A good
analogy are abused women that go back to their abusers because the
abuser said "I'm sorry", only to utter it again and again after every
punch, bruise, broken bone...or worse...

Maybe this is an extreme analogy, but I think you get my point...

We've all done things we had to apologize for and I dont really know
why women have been shown to apologize more than men, but I truly
believe that doesn't mean they are better than men when it comes to
apologies, maybe just "programmed" a little better...

A person that has the need to apologize for every little thing is
insecure and in need of attention and approval in my opinion which
I realize, means nothing...Hahahahaha

So, when you have to apologize for something, is it because you are
truly sorry or it's something automatic and necessary to make the
other person feel better?